Anxiety falls into two categories: acute and chronic anxiety. Acute anxiety, (aka panic attacks) are triggered by a certain, often subliminal, stimulus and are generally short-lived. Chronic anxiety or panic is pervasive. The behavior of chronic anxiety may manifest itself as anger, but the motivating emotion in anxiety is fear. People who suffer from chronic anxiety feel that they live under a permanent ‘sword of Damocles’, just a hair trigger away from impending doom.
People who interact with the chronic anxiety sufferer describe them as ‘nervous’, ‘irritable’, ‘edgy’, ‘negative’, ‘unpredictable’ and ‘irrational’. Relationships with chronic panic sufferers are characterized by stormy, unwarranted outbursts, violent mood swings and apparent turbulence in the relationship. The partner who does not suffer from chronic anxiety often sees the anxious partner as ‘unreasonable’, ‘selfish’, ‘relentless’ and ‘intimidating’.
It is important to understand, when interacting with a person suffering from chronic anxiety that for them the peril is real. Anxiety ridden people are plagued by real fear over imagined situations. These imagined fears are not hallucinations or fantasies. Chronic anxieties stem from legitimate fears that have mushroomed out of proportion in the imagination of the anxious person. Chronically anxious people are not crazy or irrational. They suffer from inordinate levels fear in response to normal or mild stressors.
Chronic anxiety almost always has its roots in childhood. Issues of family addiction, fear of abandonment, family transience, absent parent, poverty, abuse or emotional instability have generally underscored a chronically anxious person’s history. Children raised in these circumstances have learned not to trust anyone or anything. They are wary, cautious and always walk on eggshells, never knowing when catastrophe may occur. Chronic anxiety is a learned coping mechanism and pattern of response.
People come from all walks of life, from very different backgrounds. This is where the foundation of the family comes in handy. Raising kids from a beautiful and complete family are mostly living their life at its fullest. While the ones who were unfortunate enough to experience a happy family while growing up usually suffer anxiety, mental distortion, emotional imbalance, fear of socializing and frequent depression. There is a lot of issues that are misunderstood by kids who grow up that is why it is very crucial that parents or the elders try to explain to them what really is happening. They can understand in time, as long as they can feel the love and the sense of belongingness. The way we handle our emotions really roots from our childhood, thus our family orientation leads us to understanding ourselves better and knowing how to deal with other people.